A helpful guide for parents overwhelmed by toddlerhood.

When I became a mom, I had no idea just how much energy a tiny human could hold. My son, now a spirited, curious, endlessly active 2.5-year-old, has been on the move since the moment he figured out how to crawl. He’s joyful, funny, determined… and like many toddlers, he struggles with focus, transitions, and managing his big feelings.

Around the same time he was born, I also stepped into my work in Montessori administration. The timing couldn’t have been more aligned. The more I learned about Montessori philosophy—its respect for the child, its emphasis on independence, and its deep trust in the natural rhythm of development—the more I saw my own child reflected in it. Montessori helped me understand him, and he helped me appreciate Montessori on a whole new level.

And honestly? It helped me feel less overwhelmed.

Toddlers are beautiful, busy little beings. But parenthood, especially the first time around, can feel like a lot. What transformed our home life more than anything else were Montessori-inspired routines. Not rigid schedules, but gentle rhythms that create just enough structure for both of us to breathe easier.

Why Routines Matter (Especially for Spirited Toddlers)

Toddlers thrive when the world feels predictable. For children who have high energy or struggle with attention, predictability becomes even more essential. Routine gives toddlers:

• A sense of security

• A clear understanding of what’s coming

• Fewer opportunities for power struggles

• More meaningful engagement

For my son, routines didn’t change who he is. He’s still joyful and wild, but they helped him settle into his day with more confidence and less resistance.

What Montessori Taught Me as a Parent

As I spent my days supporting Montessori classrooms and my evenings parenting a toddler, three core Montessori principles became my lifeline:

1. Order Supports Peace

Montessori environments follow a clear flow and predictable sequence. Bringing a bit of that order home, like having a consistent morning rhythm, dramatically reduced meltdowns. Toddlers need to know what’s next.

2. Independence Builds Confidence

Giving my son small opportunities to do things on his own changed everything. When he can get his own cup, choose between two shirts, or help wipe a spill, he feels capable and less frustrated.

3. Connection Is the Foundation

Routines make space for connection. Without rushing or negotiating every moment, there’s more room for warmth, eye contact, and shared tasks. Those small moments build trust.

Simple Montessori-Inspired Routines That Work in Our Home1. A Predictable Morning Rhythm

Mornings used to be our hardest time. Now a simple flow helps us both:

• Potty

• Get dressed

• Brush teeth

• Breakfast

Nothing fancy, just predictable. And that predictability brings peace.

2. A Calm(ish) Mealtime Routine

Letting him help with something small, like washing berries or carrying his plate, engages him and reduces the wiggles long enough for us to actually enjoy a meal together.

3. A Goodbye or Goodnight Ritual

Ours is a hug, a kiss, and “See you after nap time!” Short, consistent, comforting.

4. Inviting Him to Help

My son wants to participate. Giving him responsibilities like watering plants, putting laundry in the basket, or wiping the table channels his energy into purposeful action.

5. A Soothing Bedtime Flow

Consistency is everything. After bath time, he turns off the lights, we read two books, and we say the same phrase each night. It signals that the day is done.

A Montessori Administrator… and a Mom Still Learning

I’ll be the first to admit: even with Montessori knowledge, parenting is not always calm or perfect. My toddler still has big feelings. I still have days when the routine goes out the window. But Montessori has given us a foundation, a rhythm that brings balance to the beautiful chaos.

Routines didn’t change my child’s spirited nature, and I wouldn’t want them to. Instead, they helped channel his energy in ways that support him, helped me understand him better, and brought us closer.

Final Thoughts: Start Small

If daily life feels overwhelming, start with one small routine—morning, mealtime, or bedtime. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection. When toddlers know what to expect, they feel more grounded, and so do we.

As both a Montessori administrator and a mom figuring this out day by day, I can say with confidence:

Montessori doesn’t just bring peace to the classroom, it can bring peace to your home.

And it’s never too late to start.